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  • #136: 3 Habits For Success That Have Been Within You All Along

    #136: 3 Habits For Success That Have Been Within You All Along

    25/01/2018 Duração: 10min

    Success. If you're like me, you can't get enough of it. And you've probably spent way too much time - and possibly money - searching for it. In books and videos. You dress for it. You chase it. You fake it ‘til you make it. You travel far and wide!   But let me ask you this: Do you feel successful? Truly, fully, mind-contentedly successful?   Of course you don’t. If you did, you wouldn’t be here. And let’s face it, if it was really that easy - if everyone was doing it - you wouldn’t need me. No one would. And while that would mess with my business plan, it’d also make this world such a better place. But I digress...   So are all of those methods and products and shortcuts and paths just a bunch of hooey? Are you being bamboozled and scammed? And taken and flimflammed?   The short answer, believe it or not, is...  NO. None of these success-minded offerings are wrong. But all of them in and of themselves can be incomplete. Every single one of them. Especially the fancy ones!   Success isn’t a destination

  • #135: 6 Things You Need to Let Go of This Year

    #135: 6 Things You Need to Let Go of This Year

    18/01/2018 Duração: 23min

    My guess is that you are extremely important. There are probably dozens, hundreds, even thousands of people holding their collective breath and waiting on your every move. You are the glue that holds everything together in your world.   It’s exhausting. It’s overwhelming. You are constantly doing at least 10 things at once at any given time. And if you stop - if you even dare to take the tiniest of breaks - the universe as we know it would immediately unravel and cease to exist.   And how could you ever live with yourself after that?   Now is the time when someone shakes you, you open your eyes and rejoin the rest of in what I like to call reality.   Don’t get me wrong; I am not judging you. I’m the last person to do so. In fact, would you like to know a little secret? I used to be just like you. And if I’m honest, I still find that I can slip back into those patterns of belief and behavior.   But it doesn’t have to be this way...  What if I told you that you have the power to release yourself

  • #134: 3 Great Lessons From a Kind of Crappy Year

    #134: 3 Great Lessons From a Kind of Crappy Year

    11/01/2018 Duração: 18min

    Last year was a rollercoaster ride for nearly everyone I know. Lots of changes and losses and upheaval. Some sweet moments, of course. But in so many ways, it seemed like one of the most tumultuous years ever. At least in my lifetime.   So how about you? What are the things that happened in 2017 that you can’t wait to leave far behind you? What did you lose? What went wrong? Where would you love to press the reset button? And what would you change if you could?   I know a lot of people don’t like to dwell on the negative. In fact, I’ll jump in and say that I’m definitely one of them. But there’s a huge difference between dwelling and processing. Between sweeping stuff under the rug and taking the time to sort through it and deal with it accordingly.   It’s okay to think about these things. In fact, it’s necessary to reflect. It’s part of grieving. It’s part of growing. It’s how you begin to design a new blueprint for a new chapter. And it’s probably the healthiest way I know to ring in a new year.   When

  • #133: Embracing the Letdown

    #133: Embracing the Letdown

    04/01/2018 Duração: 07min

    We're barely into the new year and you've already used, lost, grown tired of, or broken all of your favorite holiday toys. The leftovers are gone. Or're still wearing them under your "fat" pants. The next decent excuse for a merry celebration is months away and those resolutions are feeling impossible to keep.   Any of this ringing any bells? Chances are you've had this feeling before. And not just after the holiday season. My guess is it's happened to you repeatedly. Anytime you build up expectations. Anytime something extraordinary inevitably ends...or becomes just plain ordinary.   It's almost as if this huge, deflating beast is waiting in the wings to ruin anything really good in your life. Poised to fill you with boredom, apathy, and displeasure. Whispering in your ear as soon as the fun begins, "Is that all there is?"   Well, Buttercup, that something may be super stealthy and illusive. But it has a name. I call it: The Letdown.   That's right, The Letdown. Be honest, you're not stranger

  • #132: Don’t Let Auld Lang Syne Trigger Your Ol’ Anxiety

    #132: Don’t Let Auld Lang Syne Trigger Your Ol’ Anxiety

    28/12/2017 Duração: 09min

    It's here again. That time of year when you've run out of...well...  Year!   Where did the time go? How did another entire year just slip away in the blink of an eye? And more importantly, how did you not make good on that laundry list of resolutions? Why are you still in that job, that car, that house, those pants? You may ask yourself, my God, what have I done?   So. Many. Questions. And some regrets. And do I detect a hint of anxiety?   Let's face it: New Year's is a time that often seems literally designed to get you to dwell upon these things! You look back, you assess, maybe you even stress and beat yourself up a little.   If you're like me, you've spent many a year's end in the grips of this vicious cycle. Checking old lists. Making new ones. Or, more likely, just manically expanding the ones which already exist. Bargaining and negotiating with imaginary versions of yourself - past, present, and future - and most likely making outlandishly unrealistic promises that you

  • #131: How to Grow Your Heart 3 Sizes…Stat!

    #131: How to Grow Your Heart 3 Sizes…Stat!

    21/12/2017 Duração: 08min

    Last week I talked about how to deal with those rude, obnoxious people you've undoubtedly been encountering in spades this holiday season. Bad drivers, selfish shoppers, lazy, incompetent customer service people...and the list goes on.   We joked a little, tongue in cheek, about 5 ways to handle these Grinchy Grinch Grinches without loosing it completely and hauling off and punching anyone in the face. We can all agree how tempting that sometimes is. And I suspect we can all agree that it's never a good idea to actually follow through. My hope is that my suggestions snapped you out of that festering frustration and neutralized any lingering visions of a smackdown.   But what if they didn't? What if - bear with me here - what if that anger caused your heart to shrink a little? Maybe one, maybe two, possibly even three sizes too small!   That's right. What if YOU have become the very Grinch you so dread and despise?   Here are some simple questions designed to determine if the unthinkable has indeed occurre

  • #130: 5 Things to Do with Rude People Instead of Punching Them in the Face

    #130: 5 Things to Do with Rude People Instead of Punching Them in the Face

    14/12/2017 Duração: 11min

     The woman who cuts in front of you at Starbucks and proceeds to place an order for a small village - and keeps revising it for at least 52 minutes. - The old man who zooms in front of you to steal the parking space you've been waiting patiently for, blocks you from driving around him, and then expects you and the line of vehicles behind you to back up so that he can let the parked car out. - The lady with two entire shopping carts full of stuff - and a nappy little dog - in front of you in the express checkout. - The cashier who expects you to do a price check when he rings your items up incorrectly. - That mother behind you in line blissfully ignoring her kids screaming, throwing stuff, and ramming their cart into the back of your knees. - The bad toupee wearing a sports car that road rages you for several miles after you won't let him cut across five lanes of traffic to turn right in front of a lane that's designated for through traffic. - The driver of the ginormous SUV that pulls into the

  • #129: 5 Signs You Need Help – Especially If You Think You Don’t

    #129: 5 Signs You Need Help – Especially If You Think You Don’t

    07/12/2017 Duração: 09min

    Hey Buttercup I got your number: You are superwoman. Not only can you bring home the bacon and fry it up in a bought the land, built the farm, selected the pig - after breeding, delivering, raising, and grooming it - cured and smoked the meat, and now your creating dozens of recipes and preparing dishes to serve at the party of the century which you will single-handedly pull off.   Why? Because you can.   My sister had a friend who told her one of the single wisest things she'd ever heard. And she in turn passed it on to me. Just because you're good at cleaning toilets doesn't mean you have to do it for a living.   Think about that. Really think about it. Just because you can do everything doesn't mean you have to do everything.   So let me ask you this: Why do you?   I know, I know...You're superwoman. Of course you have to! And as we head full force into the holiday season, you may believe that you're absolutely indispensable. There's a ton to do and you've got it all covered. But let's face

  • #127: Beyond Thankfulness: 4 Things You Need to Be Grateful For If You Want to Grow

    #127: Beyond Thankfulness: 4 Things You Need to Be Grateful For If You Want to Grow

    23/11/2017 Duração: 13min

    Today is American Thanksgiving. It's a day dedicated to giving thanks for all the blessings in our lives. The myth we were taught as children revolved around the colonial settlers from Europe - or Pilgrims - and the native Americans. It was told that they put aside their differences for one day a year to share a meal, teach each other their unique traditions, and embrace each other with love and acceptance.   But anyone with any true knowledge of that time in American history knows that this is just a fairytale.   The concept of a Thanksgiving - or day of thanks - is present in nearly every world religion as a day to be thankful for the harvest and the previous year. And these are worthy aspirations. But I'm going to say something controversial: The myth I grew up with is also a worthy aspiration. I still believe this wholeheartedly...even given my knowledge of the true nature of the relationship between the settlers and the natives.   Anyone can be thankful for the good stuff. And we all should be of cour

  • #126: Don’t Mess with My Toot-Toot

    #126: Don’t Mess with My Toot-Toot

    17/11/2017 Duração: 15min

    Have you ever gotten super excited about doing something new...only to be immediately derailed by a well meaning friend or loved one? Of course you have! We all have. And sometimes the warnings, criticisms, and devil's advocate act can truly come from a place of good intentions. Sometimes you need a reality check. But what about when you really don't?   Almost 20 years ago, my sister was about to get married. She'd put on a lot of weight over the years and she really wanted to slim down. For her health. For her vanity. And for her wedding photos.   Roughly two and a half months before the wedding, she saw an infomercial that sparked her motivation. It was for a diet plan that seemed to suit her but it would have taken 7-14 business days to be delivered. She did some research and discovered that the product was shipped from our town. So she grabbed me, drove to the warehouse and convinced the employees that she had to buy the product right then and there. It went against all the rules but she's very persuasi

  • #125: Support for Dummies

    #125: Support for Dummies

    09/11/2017 Duração: 15min

    Some people always suck the air out of the room. They make everything about themselves. They are masters of to belittle you so stealthily that you may find yourself thanking them for the deed. They can make you smaller with just a quick glance. And my guess is that you can spot them a mile away. Like most people, you're probably pretty good at avoiding them or at least defending yourself from their calculated attacks.   These people are not good for you. They're not supportive. And it's usually obvious.   But what about the friends and family members who aren't evil incarnate but who somehow still miss the mark when it comes to support? Do you know how to spot them? Do you have adequate defenses and strategies in place to protect yourself?   And here's the BIG, difficult, in-your-face question that needs to be asked: Are you actually one of them?   You probably think you're super supportive. And maybe you are. But if you feel like you're not getting the support you truly need, it may m

  • #124: 4 Easy Ways to Say, “I Don’t Got Your Back!”

    #124: 4 Easy Ways to Say, “I Don’t Got Your Back!”

    02/11/2017 Duração: 16min

    Ever wondered how you can let someone know that you just don't support them? Looking for ways to show someone you really don't care? We've all been there. So I'm here to show you 4 ways to say, "I don't got your back!" know...identify which of your own loved ones aren't truly there to support you. Support. It's that make or break ingredient that can often be the difference between success and failure. Think of it like salt: You don't always detect when it's there. When administered correctly, it's subtle. It makes everything work better. It can bring out flavor, textures, even colors. It's responsible for the chemical success of so many things. So while it's presence can be easily taken for granted, its absence is glaringly obvious. You literally cannot live without salt. And if you're completely honest with yourself, you know that the same thing is true of support. How many heart-warming stories have you heard about an underdog who went from rags to riches or who, against all odds, achieved som

  • #123: Fear By Any Other Name

    #123: Fear By Any Other Name

    26/10/2017 Duração: 26min

    Remember all of that fuss in Romeo and Juliet about a rose? You know, if it was called anything other than a rose, it'd still be a rose. It would look the same, feel the same. Smell the same. That's some deep stuff, right? Basically, Shakespeare was saying it didn't matter how you framed it; a rose is a rose is a rose.   But what if you called a rose a banana? Could that be confusing? Could it drastically alter perceptions and possibly really mess up a good pie? Or let's say you called a rose a thorn delivery system? Suddenly it might not be so appealing.   There's an art form to marketing and spin. A masterful finesse to renaming, rearranging, and reforming how we see things. It can change what we believe, what we want, even how we behave. And sometimes that's refreshing. But sometimes it can be harmful.   You might have designer clothes and handbags, artisan cupcakes or cheese, reimagined, recycled, and upcycled tchotchkes. But did you know that you're probably also walking around with something else tha

  • #122: Loco for FOMO

    #122: Loco for FOMO

    19/10/2017 Duração: 12min

    When I was growing up, I was cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. I was also looney for Lucky Charms, crazy for Captain Crunch, and fanatical over Fruity Pebbles. Weekly grocery shopping with my family was stressful. I had to choose one and commit to it for an entire week. Or worse, they'd let me have a couple, which would make every morning an agonizing dilemma. And then there was the bickering and bargaining with my sister over who would get the last bowl of whatever was in the box. It didn't really matter what it was...I wanted it because she did, and visa versa. Sounds silly, right? But at the time, these felt like life altering decisions. Huge amounts of energy were spent on ruminating over the choices...and then often regretting the sacrifices I'd made. Don't even get me started on the Eggos! Today I face the same sorts of conundrums. I could get all up on my high horse and talk about how much more serious and important they are but here's the truth: it's all relative. All of it. Not just the decisions but how I

  • #121: Slow Your Jealy Roll

    #121: Slow Your Jealy Roll

    12/10/2017 Duração: 20min

    See that woman over there? She's got a way better job than me! And that one? Man I want her car! And check out the brains on the one with all those diplomas on her wall! Grrrrrrrraaaaargh!!! Woah! Clearly I need to get a grip on my green eyed monster. Sound familiar? Jealousy can come on like a freight train and mow down your confidence. I call it the Jealy Roll. Worst. Pastry. Ever. Recently I had to get over myself and acknowledge my own jealy roll. Yes, that's right; I'm just as susceptible to the pitfalls of toxic comparison-itis and stuck-itude as you. We all are. In fact, those super together women with great jobs and cars that may have tripped me up... Guess what? They're busy jealy rolling over someone else from time to time. So what to do, what to do... Well, how about a little motivational dessert? This episode is the perfect cherry to plop atop the motivation sundae I just spent a couple of months serving up to you. Let's face it: nothing but NOTHING kills your momentum like a good old fashione

  • #120: Keep it Up, Buttercup

    #120: Keep it Up, Buttercup

    05/10/2017 Duração: 12min

    // I once joined the YMCA. I did it because I wanted to work out regularly and spend time participating in activities with my son. I was going to get in shape so I could be healthy, happy, and, I'll be perfectly honest here...HOT. I made the decision. I was committed. And by taking the very concrete action of signing that contract allowing them to debit money from my account every single month, I had thoroughly covered all the steps of my very own motivation model. I was unstoppable. I was on fire! Remember when you were feeling just as motivated? Remember feeling unstoppable and on fire? You may even remember it like it was yesterday. Because it might actually have been just yesterday! So what happened? Well let me speak for myself; I lost my motivation. Or more accurately, I abandoned it. In fact, a couple of years later, I was still being debited every month for my membership...and I'd not been there since the first month or two. One day my sister asked me why I didn't just cancel the membership. An

  • #119: Lights, camera, ACTION!

    #119: Lights, camera, ACTION!

    27/09/2017 Duração: 09min

    // So you think you're motivated. You've defined what you want. You've figured out why. You've tapped into your desire. But there's still one more thing you gotta do. And it all comes down to this. What is it? Are you sure you're ready? Okay, here we go... Quiet on set... Lights; camera; ACTION! I've spent the last month breaking down motivation for you piece by piece. No sugar coating. Gloves off. Down to business. And we are finally at the homestretch. I've helped you identify your WHYs. I've taught you how to cut through all the noise and discover your true desires. And I've clarified the importance of decision - and how you are always making decisions either proactively and consciously or passively and irresponsibly. Today I'm giving you the final - and indisputably most crucial - piece of the motivation puzzle. You have to take action. You know that. I'm not telling you anything new. I'd love to be the inventor of the Insta-Motivate Change supplement. Just add water and live your dreams! But if I

  • #118: Decide Already!

    #118: Decide Already!

    21/09/2017 Duração: 12min

    // In the space between desire and action, there lurks a shadowy nemesis to all wishy washy scaredy cats and procrastinators. A powerful force to be reckoned with. A master of movement. A champion of change.  What is it?  Guess.  Don't daly or hesitate.  Guess.  Need a hint?  Decide already!!! That's right, I'm talking about...  Decision! Why is decision a part of the change process, you might ask. Isn't it enough to identify the things you desire to change...and then take action to change them? That's a really excellent question. To answer you, I need to ask you a few questions:  1. Have you ever dilly dallied, refusing to make a decision, only to discover that the decision went ahead and made itself without you?  2. Can you relate to that old saying, "Be careful what you wish for!"?  3. And more pointedly, have you ever made a decision that you regretted and invoked that old saying with the force of 1,000 suns?  If you can't answer "YES!" to all three of those questions, congratulations; you're my hero! H

  • #117: What You Want?

    #117: What You Want?

    14/09/2017 Duração: 11min

    What you want? baby, YOU got it!  Or do you?  Before you can get what you want, you have to not only know what it is, you gots to burn for it, deep down, in your soul! What am I talking about?  This is the stuff that moves mountains. It forges paths. Dams rivers. Launches ships and dreams and entire careers. It even drives some to drop houses on their sisters and others to terrorize little girls over a pair of shoes.  Maybe you already know what I'm talking about...But I'm not ready to reveal it just yet.  First let me congratulate you on making it this far in my epic series on change. Clearly you want to make some changes in your life or you wouldn't still be here. Wanting something is a good first step towards getting it. But it's not enough. If it were, you'd already be living the dream, right?  What I'm talking about here today is essentially want on steroids. Want to the infinite degree. Want after guzzling a six pack of Monster*. Are you with me yet?  History is littered with people who wanted things bu

  • #116: Whyyyyyy?

    #116: Whyyyyyy?

    07/09/2017 Duração: 09min

    // WHY? Because I said so. Because you have to. Because that's the way it works. Because it's always been that way.  Feeling motivated?  Of course you're not! Those answers never work. They didn't work when you were a kid. They don't work on you now. But let me ask you this: Can you easily and readily provide exciting, empowering, satisfying answers to the WHYs in your life? Because if you can't, you're probably not going to truly find the motivation to get from this side of WHY to the other. In fact, it gets worse; you may actually become demotivated. And let's face it, if you were from content on this side, you wouldn't be asking WHY. (117) The less in touch with your WHYs you are, the more loaded and offensive that question can start to feel. The more frustrated you can become. The more you may avoid looking for the answers. I mean seriously...WHY would you want to stress yourself out? WHY??? But here's the thing: WHY isn't going anywhere. WHY is in your face. Every day. And remember those flippant answer

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